Malay customs and etiquette
By Datin NOor Aini Syed Amir (DNASA )
Mrs DNASA for short as referred in the book is the daughter of a diplomat and wife of a prince . and as referred in the book she has a log history of writing from her youth and lives in Perlis
This is one of the books ordered in April this year via Amazon . I had the chance the previous days to have a semi fast reading of this book that consists of ca90 pages that have been rad in ca 2 hours ! The text is quite simply written with very few unknown words to me , that I skipped , and made for the sake for writing this article.
The book is written in early 90s in S’pore by time books with a foreword by Saizuddin Chik minister of Culture in Msia ,though all photos are of the 60s era (for Greece)
This book goes with basic insights on Malaysian customs. IN contrast to the other books referred before , it digs deeper into the etiquette on what is necessary for the foreigner to know (dressing , gifting etc) . For example the first don’ts are not to wear the shoes inside the house , as it is a Muslim country . Salam as noticed in oter books is shown here with a picture . Also on how women have to sit as the yoga position is deemed rude . How you pick some one by using the thumb pointing . The halal food and how pork is deemed for Malays as well the cow for Indians .
Her eis a brief passage of the chapters followed
Table manners : eating with fingers ad the process of washing with kendi . Process for eating nasi daun pisang with the banana leaf . eating with chopstick or fork and spoon . The special spoon
Festivals : after showing the basic listing of festivals , there is a reference for Open Houses (described as the date the master of the house open the house for special occasion to his relatives frinds etc ) with the description of appropriate gifts to ethnicity and dressing per occasion
Life happenings (birth marriage etc )
- ON birth of confinement , suggestion of gifts (though flowers are one of the best for every occasion throughout the book ) and includes 3 special ceremonies naik buaian /poton jambul/ jejak tanah
- birthdays : shows landmark births and special on 60s
- marriage : with some analysis to 4 ceremonies : hantar tanda , bertanang , akad nikah , bersanding
- funeral : about the dressing I was quite impressed that though the main dressing for Malays is white , dark dressing is the most suitable for foreigners
I jump the chapters for Indian and Chinese customs and go to the most complex part: addressing people
IN the page 74 the writer suggests , that if you meet a high class person VIP and hyou are confused how to address him , Is better to address him by a higher level (something that happened in Greece many years ago )
IN same chapter it continues with several tables for styling rulers governonrs royals appointed offices.
Also included are several royal words as patik as equivalent to say (I), the sudden word auntie as informal word to call an elder woman (this is refered in the book as anecdote )
This is a short overview of the book with a minimal commentary
IN short this book describes the what I have to learn to attend a Malaysian hapoening together with some etiquette