Tongue Fu ® by Sam Horn (my verbal defense series #2 )
Tongue fu is the second of my verbal self defense books
There is also a interesting story in the preface on how it was called :
The author has develolpped seminars on how to defend difficult situation and negotiations. After one of her seminar ended , one attendee didn't leave the classroom , and told the author that these classes remind him the techniques similar to martial arts , very similar to Kung fu. So Mrs Sam renamed the class as Tongue Fu®! (with always the ! on the end )
This book has a different approach than Mrs Glass book (idiots guide to verbal self defense ).
The book is divided in 5 parts . A total of 30 chapters between 3 and 8 pages each . Each chapter starts with a quote , then the header , and then full of quotes from famous people together with short passages maximum 1 page each after each quote , mostly with examples of using the technique
IN the end of each chapter there is a table showing more short examples in special social cases
The passages are easy to understand, in relatively plain English but still the vocabulary is quite rich (ie many unknown words at last 3-6 per page in ca 500 words )That's good that I use my tablet for the translation for faster reading
The book anyway is very easy to follow and the examples are real life. Yes and really I already did some of these techniques at first to my daughter and then a internet friends and seemed that they worked well
MY opinion : A very useful book with nice tactics , some of them close to Glass's book (as for example I found the mirroring technique on one of her chapters ) , but possibly more advanced and useful than the elementary and more general of Glass's . And you learn also very useful , meat for your mind , quotes!
Rating : 4/4
And here I describe the contents of the book
Part 1 respond rather than react
- Fast forward throu frustration
- Handle hassles with fun fu (ie humor)
- Talk people throu their troubles
- End people though their troubles
- End complaints instantly
- Gracefully exit arguments
- Name the game
- Tongue glue!
- What to say when you don't know what to say
- Find solutions
Part 2 words to lose , words to use
- Acknowledge don't argue
- Become a coach not a critic
- Turn orders into requests
- Clear away the 'cant' barrier
- Become problem free
- Avoid going to extremes
Part 3 turn conflicts into cooperation
- Listen up
- Rules for unruly behaviors
- Defuse disputes
- Approach with an open mind
- Share control
Part 4 get more what you want need and deserve
- Choose your battles
- Say no
- Terminate tactfully
- Act and feel confident
- 5 principles of persuasion
- Break free from bullies
- Give people aa fresh start
- Take change of your emotions
- Maintain a positive perspective
- Ki' em with kindness
Epilogue : turn intentions into actions
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